Thursday, December 30, 2010

Goodbye 2010 and Hello 2011!!

My google reader is flooded with posts after posts of Yr2010 reminiscences from my favorite bloggers.

So let me do a review of my 2010 too.

Too often this year I got people coming up to me, patting me on the shoulder to sympathize on what a bad year it has been for me. And in the midst of the grieving for beloved Ah Yi or battling with my hormonal acne, insomnia nights and recurring UTI, I agreed with my sympathizers. I never had so much pain in a year. Both physically and emotionally.

But interestingly, for every pain I experienced, kindness and goodness came along as well. I know I risk sounding patronizing, but looking back on the year, my blessings are as plentiful as my trials.

When I heard the bad news about Ah Yi, barely landed in Heathrow airport, my heart broke to pieces. I felt so helpless being halfway across the globe from my devastated husband. I went through customs in a daze only to find myself sobbing in the arms of a complete stranger, Yim’s father in law, who came to fetch me. And in the next few days, I never experienced more meticulous care and unconditional kindness from Yim’s in laws. It is one of my greatest regret to miss Yim's wedding but I am comforted that she has definitely married the right man and family.

My continuous bouts of health problems tore me apart through the year. Though the pain is hardly comparable to patients lying in hospitals, but trust me, I got more than a hint of how torturing it can be on your soul. And to your loved ones around. I was definitely not in the sweetest temper, yet, Yong stood by me, in his usual quiet nature. I finally understand and appreciate the meaning of "strong and silent".

It was a rude wake up call to start paying attention to my health. I started reading Chinese medicine books fervently. Watched my diet closely and came to realize how “poisonous” chilli and coffee is to me. And the fact that I love my seafood way too much.

With this new sense of alertness, I started to care more for my parents and Yong’s health. I became more sympathetic to my mum’s regular complaints of aches and pain due to aging. Though I was half forced to a health supplement talk by my darling beautician, Joy, I stayed through and were interested to know more. I would not be caught dead doing that when brimming with health in my younger days. So again, the blessings in disguise.

Lastly, my greatest blessing was that I came to know Christ this year. Half shoved into it by Joy again! Ha! Joy’s nagging is liked my mum’s. Irritating but I still listen and follow. (-_-;) Things were happening in ways I could not comprehend nor control. I needed faith. With Joy’s constant ‘preaching’ and a close friend’s jioing, I started going to Church. I am not exactly sure why and how, but I can’t deny that I am happier these days. More ready to let go and well, let god. And I finally understood the long queue outside The Rock @ Suntec every Sunday.

2010 has been a year of roller-coaster rides with the high of our wedding to the low of losing my mother in law. I have grown tremendously in dealing with pain and helplessness. I also grew into my new role as a Mrs, being a partner in everything with Yong. At the end of the day, I am thankful for the ordeals I have gone through.

So goodbye poignant 2010 and hello new 2011! I am excited with what is in store for me and what else I can learn and grow in the new year. Are you, my dear readers? With all my heart, I wish everyone a blessed 2011 and have a wonderful celebration over the long weekend!

Picture from Yurik86

Ps: The year ended with one more blessing: Yong is NOT going to Germany during CNY afterall. Hurray!! :))))

Thursday, December 23, 2010

Merry merry xmas everyone~~

Monday, December 20, 2010

NoobCook.com - Not a noob at all!

*Drool*

*Lagi more Drool*

Check out the pictures from Noobcook and you will know the reason behind my overactive drool glands..


Photos from noobcook
Photos from noobcook
DE-LI-Cious photos that look straight out from some chi-chi cookbook.. lots of local recipe (e.g. abalone congee, stir-fried lala clam with belachan, etc) and a well organized blog, noobcook, you got another major fan here!

*wave*

What's more, she puts in step by step instructions by photos which often include the packaging. This is a total godsend to noobs liked me who can't even tell the difference of pork and chicken.

And judging from her crowded comments space, she is really generous and quick in responding to queries.

Seriously, I don't think noobcook is a noob at all! Not in her diverse culinary skill. As well as her clean sharp food-tography. And not least, her ability to create beautiful website that is such a pleasure to read!

Gosh, noobcook, can you come and perform some initiation on my hardly touched one year old kitchen that is complete with sparkling stove and oven that are crying out to be used?

You are really an inspiration and I hereby declare my awe and admiration for you!

Love!

Saturday, December 18, 2010

The little rascals...




Had late breakfast with Sis in law and Ah Tioh. Then back to their house to laze around. Love slow weekend mornings liked this. Just hanging out doing .. well.. nothing..

Bitter Stickgal book

Mentioned my awe for Stickgal's talent some posts ago. Bought the book shortly but dragged till now to take photo of it.

Coincidentally she is having a charity book sales till 23rd Dec where $10 is donated to Operation Smile for every book sold. Her book makes great gift so hurry if you want to make it in time for Xmas.

Oh, and no, I don't know Ms Stickgal nor doing advertisement for her. Just wanna spread the good word about her book which brought me much joy.


Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Give me SYTYCD DVD for Xmas, Santa!

Dear Santa,

As you may know by now, I am obsessed with So You Think You Can Dance. My HubStation 320GD hard disk is almost entirely wiped out with episodes of this show (well, and Nigella's, but that would be a separate wish :P) which irritates Yong when his Ninja warrior does not get recorded.

But I can't erase any of the precious episodes.

I can't I can't I can't I can't I can't I can't I can't.

Just check out this opening act of Season six and you will know what I mean:


See... Wouldn't you too, get goosebumps when watching such fabulous performances? (btw isn't the music just divine : The Revels - Comanche) I am just speechless with joy each time I watch these talented dancers flex, twist, bent their incredible bodies against the beat of music.

When I am down, watching any episodes of Season 6, would lift my spirit without fail. Yong would shake his head at my twentieth standing ovation in our living room which will usually be followed by some leaps in the air to mimic what I just saw. And less frequently, attempts to drag him to dance salsa with me.

So Santa, to keep both our sanity, please do some magic and make FOX produce videos of past seasons so I can buy and re-play them not at the expense of our HubStation disk space.

That will be my humble Xmas wish. Please please pretty please!!

Sunday, December 12, 2010

An afternoon at Flor Patisserie

We zipped out for a quick afternoon tea at Flor Patisserie. Got to know about this darling cake shop from my colleague when asking around for good recommendation for b cake for Yong late Nov.

It was liked those exaggerated anime where flowers and leaves start appearing at the background when I first sink my teeth into their signature Strawberry Souffle cake.

I could not talk. Nor speak. The ecstasy I felt was beyond words. I wanted to sing but could only make throaty  "mmm..." sound as I savor every bite.

The cream. Luscious, milky yet delicate in taste.
The cheese sponge cake. Soft liked souffle.  It is liked a match made in heaven.
And the strawberry. Oh, the strawberry. Fragrant, sweet and a perfect finish to cheesy, creamy, milky orgy of taste.

The place was constantly packed. Japanese couples with babies. Group of girlfriends chatting. We even spotted some beefy army boys decked in their super ugly No. 4 uniforms huddling over their exquisite cakes. 

Totally enjoyed our short tea break there before we hurried home to prepare for a wedding dinner later.




Friday, December 10, 2010

Lonely CNY, more biz trips and honeymoons

Looks like it is final. Over lunch with Yong and his boss, I whined to his boss how could he sent Yong to Germany for training and leave me all alone in Singapore for our first CNY as Mr and Mrs Lim. He in turn asked why don't I join him there during CNY instead.

Well that was all we have been talking about the past week. On the same day Yong's boss told him about his pending trip, mine told me about mine. I am due for another trip to Tokyo about the same period.

Which opens up alot of options for us both.

Shall I fly to Germany and spend CNY there? Then Yong can join me in Tokyo during my biz trip?

Or arrange my trip to Tokyo during CNY, save our leave and plan for longer honeymoon in Japan-or-Taiwan-or-Korea later in the year?

We itch to go for holiday soon, exhausted with work and well, with Year 2010 basically. We have re-booked our honeymoon trip to Scenery Resort as planned earlier this year. Canceled it due to Bangkok riot. They were so sweet and prompt about our refund that we vow to go back to them. Alas, they are SO popular, we have to book 4 months in advance. Yes, you heard that right. FOUR months. We have to wait FOUR months for a short getaway/honeymoon. And we are lucky already. According to our Thai friend, it is a minimum of six months for peak season. (^_^;)

Anyhow, based on our work and trip schedules, his reservist in Feb, and after much discussion, we are unlikely to make it work for both of us to travel together for both biz trips. Which means, we won't be seeing each other much again for the next 1-2 months. Big SIANZ..

But since we feel so sorry for ourselves about our punishing schedules, we have decided to do a longer honeymoon. All those delightful trip decisions and planning will definitely help alleviate some of our sulks. Can't wait.

Monday, December 6, 2010

OMG I think i have a little crush on Chris Chu!

I knew I had to know what song it was when I heard the first few lines from the latest Sony 3D TV commercial.

The genius and voice (oh that voice *melt*) of The Morning Benders - Chris Chu .. the way he sings.. so this is how groupie feels.. Ha!

The music arrangement is just to die for.. and as one of the commenter aptly puts it.. this song is simply "eargasm". People, just press the button below and you will know what I mean..


I think I have a thing for Indie Pop, whatever that is. Cos my other current favorite is Zee Avi, who, according to Wiki, is also into Indie Pop. My favorite song from her. Totally love the trumpet part. 


LOVE...

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Clothes don't lie

Clothes don’t lie.

I have a growing pile of “no longer can wear” clothes. Added another one after wrestling futilely with the zip this morning.

Yong had also spent precious minutes during the morning rush just staring incredulously at his expanding belly. (but seriously, baby, I can’t see any beer belly loh…)

We somberly discussed during the car ride about how only a year ago we were snickering at our married friends’ expanding waistlines.. and they in turn warned us that it was a matter of time we will join their club.. they sure have foresight..

Anyhow, we have decided to join one of Yong’s friends to the Sundown marathon next May to combat our growing silhouettes. Wish us luck!

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Incredible India - Part II

Amish, my tour guide, is a staunch Jaan believer and of cos we had to go to a Jaan temple to have a look. Isn't it an irony that I never visited any of the Indian temples back home and I have to travel 7 hours to marvel at the "authentic" ones?


Grand Central Mumbai .. the most comfortable hotel I have ever stayed! Period.
High tech TV - The TV is on by motion sensor and it mutes when the phone rings 
Choice of pillows AND mattress -I heard of changing pillows but changing your mattress if you don't like the current one? The idea of four housekeepers carrying the new mattress of choice through the door just tickles me and my boss to death.
Sleeping kit -  that comes with eye shade, two aromatherapy sprays (one for destress one for sleep) and dreamkerchief (some wet tissue thingy drench in aromatherapy oil to put by your pillow)
The above is just a few of the thoughtful details they thought of. And what a difference good rest at a fabulous hotel does to your soul!


We managed to squeeze in a visit to Gandhi place and I was awed by the amount of books he had read and the amazing things he had done. It was liked history coming alive as I read his letters written to politicians. And all the old newspapers articles on his liberal ideas on women and the harijans. The above is what he wrote to women and I just had to take a photo and put it up here.

Will be back with the last part of the trip - THE FOOD... *drool*

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Incredible India - Part I

I had tried hard to get out of going to India. There were good reasons behind the reluctance. Beside my hunch that the trip would not make a difference to my sales, I also craved to spend more time with Yong since we had been traveling so much. In fact, as I write, he is away in Thailand only after 2 weeks since I came back from India.

Nevertheless, the trip was fruitful. Meetings were great and they definitely helped in my work. But also, I found myself,  most unexpectedly, falling in love with India.

The chaos, the traffic, the impossible overpopulation and invasion of private space. I came to realise there is such thing as "personal space" in India. Cars, human, livestock; You will always find yourself inches away from one of the above at any one time.

The polarizing of the social class... How extremely poor and extremely rich they can be. On one end, babies of beggars playing with dirt alongside the road. The other, 600 staff serving the richest family in India - a grand total of 5 in a 27 storey "home".

Generally Indians are gentle and sweet in nature. They are mostly easy to get along and thank god all knows some basic English. Oh, and the fooooooooood... I have completely, I say, completely let go, let live and LET EAT for a week. My boss who is a Brit with not too small an appetite himself was amazed and amused at my hearty fondness of food.

I took on a personal day tour from Mumbai Moments that came highly recommended from tripadvisor
I would not dare to go on a one on one tour if not for the raving reviews. And no regrets! With US$250 per day, I get a personal guide, driver, lunch, and customized tour in Mumbai. Pricey but with the security I get, I think it is worth it!

Enough of me rumbling.. photos!

I love the streets of India. I love the contrast of the bright clothes Indians are so fond of against the grubby grimy streets. Whether it is the poorer part of town or the upscale prime district, the women are fiercely loyal to their gorgeous colorful saris and punjabi suits.. Which of cos only fueled my desire to own a set!


This is the southern part of Mumbai where beautiful majestic colonial houses stand.. Gandhi home is also in this area. It reminded me so much of London I had to tease my boss if he felt liked home here.. The first picture on top left corner is India's very own Big Ben!

It is fascinating how radically different one part of the city can look from another! And I guess that is why Mumbai has so much character and charm. In contrast, Singapore is just.... too new. A 30 years old building is considered ancient in Singapore. However it is the old buildings that give the city the much needed personality, isn't it? Perhaps that is why Katong remains one of my favorite places in Singapore. :)

This is my favorite part of the tour. I can't remember the name of the holy water place. This is where families gather to perform rituals for their deceased loved ones. And after going around the holy pond, we had a little walk in the neighborhood which I get to see the daily life of the locals more intimately.

These photos were snapped really quickly during the brisk walk back to the car. But they turned out pretty well and became officially my favorite photos from the trip. I love the smile on the roadside barber.

Will be back with more photos in Part II.

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

I survived India!

Gonna be a short post. It has been an incredible trip to India. Will elaborate more when I have the luxury of time to indulge in a proper blog entry. Meanwhile enjoy the photo highlights of the trip!

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Home sick in India

Well, literally sick. I just vomited half of my lunch into the hotel toilet. While this is the best chance to pick up the phone and whine to Yong, the vivid memory of my last 500 dollar mobile phone bill deter me of the pleasure. And since I am denied of this pleasure, I shall whine in my little space here.

Been feeling abit fluish before getting up the plane. And extreme lethargic finally overcame me when I got to the hotel room. I don't usually miss home when on business trip very much. But today everything just seems to be not quite right.

I am fine though. I have been with my problematic tummy enough to know it is just one of the small tantrums. If not, I would not be here typing away.

Sigh.. I want to hear Yong's VOICE!!

Marriage life is definitely turning me into a whimp.

Shall stop the grumbling here. Back to my powerpoints. Sigh...

Thursday, October 21, 2010

It has been a crazy crazy month. There was the wedding. Then the mad rush to come back for the funeral. 3 different continents in 5 days. Probably spent as much time in the airport and plane as on the ground in that single week. Loads of tears. Ironically, both happy and sad.


Then insanely Busy busy busy work weeks. And now preparing for yet another trip on Sunday. Gosh, I feel liked a year has passed through October already. Strangely, instead of feeling flat out, I am feeling more alive and energized than ever. Praise the lord for his grace. 

Oh, and a marriage proposal managed to find its way into the happenings. And I had a really funny episode with my girls, for we were all dumbfounded when asked what kind of diamonds the recipient would like. Liked myself, all my gals can’t care less for the sparkles and were completely clueless on the technicalities. Needless to say, the poor guy was pushed to Yong for diamond consultation. 

We did eventually get a sense of what rings the single gals would prefer but in my wise mum’s words “who goes around with a  magnifying glass asking the details about the diamonds!?" Love my mum and her one-liners.

And talking about sparkles… I have been thinking of getting new bag for the longest time. My Coccinelle has and is still serving me well. (lovely bag really, have to give it to the Italian for their leather bags) but it has been 4 long years. And it is certainly HIGH time for some change. 

Got this from my flying fiasco week. I bought it on impulse and upon knowing the prices back home, my jaw dropped. Moral of the story: Stock up on your Mulberry when at Heathrow Airport.

Presenting my darling Gunmetal Sparkle Tweed OS Alexa.... *drum roll*



Love Love Love...

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Life goes on.. but something has changed

Last Sunday was one of our beloved niece's birthday.

And in true Lim family fashion, we ignored the traditional mourning period and urged the celebration to go on.

The frantic gift searching. 大嫂's mighty cooking feast for over 20 people *kao tao*. Everyone else fighting to help her cut the garlic, wash the vegetable, breadcrumb the prawn balls and so on. The rowdy army of toddlers and children entertaining the elders while they patiently waited for the buffet to be ready. The birthday cake and hearty singing. Squeals of joy from the present opening ceremony. The usual bliss.

Clockwise from Top: Cleo and her Mummy; Chloe and her presents; Cleo again (can't resist putting in another photo); Cheap yet so tasty Champagne we got from NTUC
But something has changed.

Despite the merry making, there was always the tinge of sadness and longing in the air.

For Ah Yi was sorely sorely missed.

The occasional red eyes. The on and off distant look on Ah Tio's face. The sighs from 大嫂 as she reminisced on Ah Yi's cooking tips. And Dot's monologue to Ah Yi's photo, now dearly placed on the kitchen top shelf, overlooking the entire house, adorned with her favorite flowers.


It still never fails to amaze me how unbelievably loving this family is to one another. And despite our size (all 15 of us), we are so tight knitted. This has certainly helped everyone to deal with the grief and move on with life.

The wet eyes will dry, Sighing and longings will fade away one day.

But I know one thing for sure, is that Ah Yi will never.

For she will forever live in all our hearts.

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

In Loving Memory of beloved Ah Yi


"When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you will see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight"
---   Kahlil Gibran

Dearest Ah Yi, 

I realized that I was indeed weeping for all that was wonderful about you during the wake.
The contentment and peace that lingered at the edge of your constant smile.
Your patient disposition when teaching the girls in the family how to cook your famous Teo Chew dishes.
Your cheekiness when we prompted Ah Tioh to kiss you during your birthday.
Your immense courage when you endured much pain towards the end. 
Your gentle temperament which is evident in all your offspring.
I grief for I wish I had more time with you as your daughter in law.
But I shall be comforted with the loving memories of you. And oh, they are lovely.
Thank you Ah Yi. You will always always be in my heart.

I will miss you so much.


Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Tailor Made Bridesmaid dress

Finally. After a month of waiting. With only a week left to Yim's wedding. My custom made bridesmaid dress is DONE!

Well, one thing I learnt: if you ever want to duplicate any design to the T, the best way would be to buy it. However, if you are willing to set aside some allowance of change and take some risk, it may turn out really fun and fruitful.

Here was what I wanted, an ASOS dress:


And after much laborious hours (no kidding!) poring over the tiny photos on my iphone, Li Hwa bravely took on the challenge. And here is the result.


During the first fitting, I got Li Hwa to cut down the ruffles and MOST importantly, take out the bust padding and tapered the bust area down.

And after a lengthy discussion with Li Hwa and another of her client (a very nice British lady who gave me great tips to keep warm in London) who happened to drop by, we decided to forgo the belt.

I am a little hesitant about the result. I love the cut and Li Hwa is FABULOUS in her craftsmanship. It is just too.......bright! I am used to wearing much darker hue. Shiny Gold is certainly new to me!

But all in all, though the dress did not turned out exactly how I wanted but it was skillfully constructed and it fits me like a glove. I know I will find the occasion to wear it again and therefore, effectively amortizing the premium dollars I paid. Hee.. dollars well spent!

Sunday, September 26, 2010

Separation Anxiety and Blog direction

There was nothing new to the scene: me unable to hide my squeals of joy as I bounced towards Yong at the arrival hall.

But something rather new has transpired in the preceding week.

For the first time, I had separation anxiety. Being away from my hubby.

It is kind of funny because when we started living together and he left for the first of his many trips this year, I wondered why I did not feel what many of my colleagues complained – that they could not sleep well when their husbands are out of town. Then, I was more than happy to have the house to myself. Weekdays night and weekends were packed with activities. Life was no difference from before. And I thought to myself: what is the big deal in living together and being married?

Then he left for another trip last week and wham! I turned into a whiny melodramatic wife pining for his return. My nights were restless with thoughts of him. My days were punctured with daydreams of what I will do to him when he is back *wink*. His absence was very very much felt.

Don’t get me wrong. I did miss him genuinely in the past. But it was more intense this time. Liked a piece of me is gone and I felt incomplete and inadequate without him.

If at this point, you are staring in disgust at the screen, be comforted. For the exceedingly mushy outpour of affection will stop here. Hee..

It has been a difficult few weeks for him and my in laws, worried sick every minute. But despite that, I am heartened and touched. For I have never seen a family this strong and united. So filled with love and encouragement for each other. There was times I was moved to tears by their virtues and my good fortune to be married to this wonderful family.

Which brings me to the next point.

This blog has been about the journey of becoming a Mrs. And now that I am, I thought about the direction of the blog. The recent episode taught me that there is so much more about being a mrs, a wife, the significant other. The meaning behind the vow. And the joy of experiencing that growth.

With all wedding stuff long done, this blog will continue its core theme – Marriage life. It will carry on the documentation of building a home with Yong. This blog will showcase the collection of my fav home décor looks, DIY crafty projects and hopefully, successful bakery attempts.

Not forgetting, the medley of my occasional melodrama.

On top of that, it will also include the assembly of things I am crazy about; cute clothes, yummy food, spicy salsa (I mean the dance), music, travel, etc 

While I am no means of an expert in ANY of the above, I am in constant awe of the talented people behind them.

And I hope you will get the same joy i feel when admiring these things I consider beautiful. :)

Monday, September 20, 2010

Lovely poem from Mary Oliver

Through the two years of forced psycho-analysis of every single sentence from my O Level English literature books , I came to respect the art without fully understanding it.

Over the years, I came to realise the beauty and importance of literature in everyday life.

The joy of reading a beautifully written passage.

The ecstasy of comprehending the wicked humour in limerick.

Ahh.. the power of words..

Nonetheless I am still far from an avid fan of literature & poetry. This is coming from someone who spent her last hour in Louvre museum counting p*ahem* parts out of boredom. Hardly an artsy person ya? ;P I was therefore surprised to be arrested by this following poem.

It took my breathe away. For a while, I floated away into the meadow, pondering what to do with my one wild precious life...

The Summer Day

Who made the world?
Who made the swan, and the black bear?
Who made the grasshopper?
This grasshopper, I mean-
the one who has flung herself out of the grass,
the one who is eating sugar out of my hand,
who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down-
who is gazing around with her enormous and complicated eyes.
Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face.
Now she snaps her wings open, and floats away.
I don't know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn't everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do

with your one wild and precious life? 

Saturday, September 18, 2010

A blog I stalk lately - The bitter stickgirl

I know I know.. I am so slow in discovering this lil cute blog.. but better late than never!

God, I wish I have her creativity! My gal friends and me had so much fun laughing over her drawings. I love her answers to FAQ. Such a pity she is no longer updating her blog. Prob will buy her lil book. Must support such a talented gal!

My favorite drawings from her site:

A girl's nightmare

Drawings from The Bitter Stickgirl

A girl's ultimate nightmare

Drawings from The Bitter Stickgirl
So aptly summarize my july ordeal.. Heheh...

Sunday, September 12, 2010

Art wall - Status: WIP

Been visiting Bras Basah Complex. Not only it is the home to TCM books I have taken an interests in lately, but also electronic guitars for Yong and most importantly craft supplies haven for the home decor projects we have very (VERY) slowly embarked on.

Here is the first project we are doing: filling up the big blank wall at dining area. Here is what our dining room was before:


Lotsa big blank walls ya?

And remember my Amelia Kay photos I bought from Etsy? We got hold of some really old frames, stripped them apart, some DIY matting (thanks to amazing Yong and his lovely 一双巧手 as he likes to call them) and wala.. they look as good as the new Ikea frames we got for Carrie Chau's series.

And for the loooongest time, my mum complained that she had to peer at the tiny door gift clock since we took our own sweet time (half a year to be exact!) in getting a proper wall clock. We finally got down buying one from Molecule that is not outrageously overpriced (well, in the end, we still felt it was as we stared in disgust at the "MADE IN CHINA" tag on the packaging).

It is still very much work in progress. Two more old frames to fill. We are thinking of using some wedding photos that are not the in your face kind of wedding photos so it fits in the theme or shop from Etsy.

We will see.

Photos time!




As you can see, alot to improve on but we are happy with whatever progress (and fun!) we have so far. Wish us luck in getting the two new photos!

Friday, September 10, 2010

Dog sitting is no joke

Took care of the two doggies while In laws are away on trip.

They say taking care of dog is nothing compared to a baby. But we had a sense of how it would be like to be parents during the week. Schedules work around the twice daily walks and mealtimes. Rushing through our dinners so we can get to them earlier. Waking up early so we can prepare their meal. Breaking up fights when they do not get along (very often!).


Awwww....

How to stay mad with them when they chewed off every thing they can touch, refuse to let us sleep in, bark nonstop in the middle of the night?

Cute to the max.

Thursday, September 2, 2010

Tips on managing (hormonal) Acne outbreak - Part II

Okay, after an intensive round of research on the net and speaking to different doctors, dermatologist and beauticians, (god, I sound like the research analyst from my company already) I have concluded on a few of things:

  • Doctors and Dermatologists are as clueless as you and I on the topics. Either that or they have no solutions after all. Well, correction, they do. Do you want to get pregnant? No? Here is your accutane. Yes? May god help you and pray for the best. Okay, they didn’t say that. But they would ignore your questions, stare intensively at your records and announce solemnly that you need to be long courses of antibiotics. MONTHS of antibiotics.
  • My beauticians from Leonard drake are even more helpless. They rotated long stares between my impossible number of whiteheads and my wedding date on the calendar and then proclaimed my condition to be hormonal. *Surprise surprise* And that I should really see a doctor. *what am I doing here with you then??* But they did keep me from having a disastrous acne riddled wedding. For that I shall give them wee bit of credit.
  • As I went along the terrible month, stories of hormonal acne sufferers streamed in. First it was Yong’s uncle’s sister’s …… (I never figured who exactly) ….’s sister in law who had hormonal acne outbreak BEFORE the wedding.And after tearful rounds of talks with Doris (owner of the hydratherapy spa), I learned she went through the same thing but in worse way since she was also the principal of a beauty school. Flowerpod is filled with stories in the line of “I always had clear skin then all hell broke loose”. My boss struggled with this after her pregnancy. Etc etc etc.. It felt good knowing that I was not alone. As Joy (my curent beautician from Franz de Paris) aptly summarized it – every ten years, our body changes. You may develop an allergy you never had. Pregnancy may change your body forever. An extra stressful or emotionally charged period may trigger (often negative) responses and changes to the body. I know how futile this sound if you are in a middle of a outbreak but the truth is, it is a phase. Something that will come and GO away. Once the changes settle, your body will find its way back to equilibrium. Yes, it will. Once we stop panicking and stop focusing on the problem. Will talk about this in a while.
  • Nonetheless, it was hard to maintain a happy composure with a swollen face, bouts of throbbing pain and pus/blood oozing out every time I wash my face (gross I know but I am not exaggerating!). I seriously needed help to get out of the depressing rut. But…
    • Antibiotics did not helped. Antibiotics in simple terms prevents inflammation and infection of wounds. It helped at first when it was just whiteheads. But did not do any bit to retain the spread of the acne. And it seriously screwed up my digestive system.
    • Facial at Leonard Drake did not helped. LD beautician was not skilled enough to clear the headless whiteheads. After much futile (and extremely painful) facials, they declare me a “must see doctor” customer.
    • TCM probably would help. But I did not give it time to realize the benefits. I was popping too many antibiotics to maintain the 2 hours gap between TCM and western medicine rule. And I went with antibiotics. Nevertheless, TCM works because for the two weeks I took TCM solely, my digestive system never felt better and my insomnia improved tremendously. Sleepless nights were reduced from every other night to only once a week. And I am sure I would be completely cured of insomnia if I carried on.
    • Hydrotherapy helped but not fast and significant enough. It did contained and flattened some of the acne after a week of intensive spa (once to twice a day). But liked TCM, it is meant for overall health and wellness. Oh I have to mention how it completely cured my insomnia. After switching over to antibiotics, I still had trouble sleeping at least once a week. But after a few session of hydrotherapy, I felt calmer and more relaxed. And since then *touch wood* I have been sleeping like a baby every night.
As mentioned earlier the real improvement came when Joy came to my rescue. She swiftly and meticulously purged every single nasty pus filled acne and as she often says, it is necessary to plug out the “root” of the acne. If not, you will end up with the acne appearing over and over again at the same spot. Unfortunately, if the squeezing of the acne is done inappropriately, it will definitely spread to the neighboring pores and goes on the speedy voyage of conquering your face.


The rapid clearing of the ugly bumps on my face improved my mood EXPONENTIALLY. And this in turn had a positive effect on my mental and emotional well-being. I stopped looking woefully at the mirror every ten minutes, enjoyed baking instead of just doing it as a distraction, took interests in events around me, noticed that the colors of trees, plants and flowers are actually not in monochrome.. .. .. you get the idea.


So if you ask me what is the solution to my hormonal acne. It is a combination of:
  1. An experienced beautician  
  2. Hydrotherapy or TCM or any kind of holistic treatment to bring your body back to balance and most importantly
  3. RELAX and Distract
There are a whole range of hormonal medications out there e.g. birth control pills, which aim to introduce artificial hormones into your body since it is not capable of producing sufficiently. But we all know about the side effects of that. Especially post medication. Therefore I am an advocate for a more natural remedy. But pair it with a good beautician to keep your sanity.

I am currently on TCM, back on running every week and started taking daily multi vits. And in God’s mysterious way of doing things, my weekends had been packed to the brim with baby showers, family and friends visits, plays (vlee conference was fantastic!), bday celebrations and hardly any time to muse over my acne any more.


I am going on to scar and mark treatment soon with Joy. Prob concurrently with Leonard Drake. While I have lost faith in them for healing acne, I will probably go back for scar treatment. After all, they did take care of my skin well for the last 3 years. And, well, I do have quite a number of LD facials left unused!

In time to come, I will probably do another post on my progress. Stay tuned.

Monday, August 23, 2010

Watched Jeanine's final Solo on So You Think You Can Dance Season 5 and the song "The Tango Project" kind of startled me. In the GOOD way. Sent thrill down my spine.





Love youtube and how it links related videos to each other so we can dig through and recover music that filled up our life once upon a time.

And how I had and still L-O-V-E this little Tango piece. And just like before, my heart still aches just a little when I listen to it.

The beauty of the melody makes me want to weep. Well... I did a little when I watch this following clip :_)





I am so hunting for Scent of a Woman DVD this weekend LOH. Al Pacino is simply magnetic.

God, I miss dancing...

Saturday, August 21, 2010

Been an insanely expensive week. Dreading to recap on my damages. Unfortunately demand outstrips the supply. Now I have to contemplate on whatever is left on my supply to survive the rest of the year!

Finally tidy up my hair. Wanted to do something drastic but upon Yong's surprisingly avid campaign to keep my hair long, i decided that a perm would appease us both. The perm, re-coloring, treatment and cut set me back on my hair budget at least for the next six month. I am beginning to doubt my decades of business studies. Obviously you can have a brighter future (and fortune) going for hair and beauty education.

The bridesmaid dress material
After a mad rush to confirm our attendance to Yim's wedding, I did an equally mad rush to get my bridesmaid dress tailored. After an hour of soft (begging) and hard (name dropping) approach, my seamstress finally accepted my order and I on her PREMIUM price. I really hope *double crossed my fingers* that the dress will turn out the way I want. After consulting my bridesmaids and their experience with tailoring, I realized that the end result very often differs from the original design. Once again, I wonder if I should have gotten my mum to train me in this line since good and reliable seamstresses are apparently extinct. Let's see if this one who came highly recommended will live up to her name.

Then I had to book my tickets to London. This was a happy purchase though equally painful on the pocket. The NATAS SQ promo fare came at the right time. This save me 4 hours of transit time if I have gone for Emirates. After a brief grimace upon clicking the "buy" button on SQ site, I broke into a huge beam for the rest of the day. I am just so happy to be able to make it for Yim's wedding afterall. It would mean the world to me to be there for her most important day as she, Mike and Papa Pisit did for mine. Looking forward to spend the few days at the English suburb with Yong.

My last damage is the TCM visit this morning. TCM is not cheap loh. Sigh.. is anything in Singapore affordable these days anyway? The medicine is simply NASTY. Looks horrible too. (see right photo) Oh well.. hopefully it will bring my body back in balance.

Bought some coasters from litteoddforest a 精品 Singapore based online store which has been around for quite a while. Always love to buy their little pouches and coasters as xmas gifts for friends.

We have been thinking of getting a DSLR for quite a while already but gonna be hard with the upcoming trip. Nonetheless, I would rather go to Yim's wedding than get a new camera.....

BUT a new camera would have been nice .... to capture all of Yim and Mark's joy and love. :P

Saturday, August 14, 2010

Tips on managing Acne outbreak

Okay, let me first start off by saying I am terrible at skincare and make up stuff. I am never that passionate about it except for occasional bout of inspiration and enthusiasm after watching michellephan or xteener youtube clip. But I have my fair share of experience visiting GP, Derms and beauticians to know a bit about taking care of problematic skin. Especially after my massive allergy/outbreak.

1. Stay away from hot shower/bath
I love hot shower especially on a cold night and early morning. But it also makes my skin really blotchy, red and worse, itchy. I used to ALWAYS come out of the shower with scratches across my chest and back. According to my beautician, hot water is really drying to the skin and also promotes the growth of the bacteria hence spreading your acne to other area. I have switched to tepid if not cool shower these days and while i still itch (i have ridiculously sensitive skin!) it is ALOT less than before.

Photo by Erix!
2. Ice your face day and night
This advice was given to me by a colleague a year back. She swore by it saying that it really calms acne. Well her glowing skin is more than enough testimonial of this great tip. My beautician instructed me to dunk my face into a bowl of ice water every day and night after washing my face. I modified it slightly since I don't have a big enough bowl. I put about 5-6 ice cube on a face towel, wet it and ice my face for about 15 mins. It makes a huge difference on my acne and helps alot on the pain and soreness.

3. Stay away from Benzac
I got this from a derm. And man, this is some nasty nasty stuff. You can read more about this "miracle" cream from acne.org under "Dan's regime" which essentially ask you to slather on thick layer of Benzac on your face every day, suffer through the peeling process and after 1-3 months (depending on your condition) you will have clear skin forever. The catch is you need to do this every day rest of your life if you want to maintain the clear condition. I can't imagine putting that much chemical on my face so I have only put on the acne as the instruction says. Nonetheless, I still got a massive allergy reaction to it and my face started peeling BADLY and my acne rapidly spread from my jawline to my cheeks. My face was half swollen and red all the time. If 3 days of application can cause all these I can't imagine putting thick layers of this on my face for the rest of my life. Imagine the damage on your skin. You have been warned. Please read up on the downside of this terrible cream if you like to embark on Dan's regime.

4. Don't ignore your whiteheads
If you have sparse whiteheads which 99% of everyone has, it is fine to ignore them. It is likely to go away after exfoliation and your usual skin regime. But if they start to spread, and stubbornly refuse to go away even after much exfoliation then please start to panic and do something about it. I have tons of headless whiteheads (they just looks like tiny bumps on your skin) beginning of the year. It was too close to the wedding so I choose not to do anything to do and let them sit dormant. And god bless, my face behaved right through the wedding.  It was not perfect but at least the make up went on beautifully and the photos turned out well.
Accordingly to my GP, he says that every whiteheads is the beginning of an acne. So it is only a matter of time every single whitehead would erupt and mature to an acne. And that was what happened to me!
However, I also learn from my beautician that we can intercept the full blown outbreak by skillful extraction of the gunk. Skillful is the key word. Extraction done wrongly is equally damaging to the skin. I am damn lucky to have found my current beautician. Within a week, she cleared all my bumps from the most superficial skin layers. However, the acne hidden within the deeper skin layers would need time to clear. Her aim is to eventually get rid of all the acne "roots" and achieve perfect skin. Frankly i am just happy with average skin. I have problematic skin all my life, battling with at least one or two pimples at any one time, so perfect skin is nothing but a distant dream for me. Nonetheless I am heartened to know i was in good hands and that brings me to my next point...

5. Find a good beautician
I was with Leonard Drake for the last 3 years and was really happy with them. I went to them after my skin reacted badly with London's tap water and they salvaged my skin. But it was only when I had my whiteheads which was due to hormonal imbalance and stress that I realized that they were not as skillful as I thought. I always remember how one of beautician insensitively expressed her frustration with my headless whiteheads. And trust me  you don't need another person to remind you how hopeless the situation is. With my current beautician, she was supportive, optimistic, and confident. And going to her is nurturing to my esteem, which is so important at this point. Most critically, she is so damn good at what she does. You can have smooth clear skin and yet she can still spot the looming acne deep in the skin layers and extract them out. My favorite part of the facial is how she would show me the gunk each time she extracts them. There is something morbidly satisfying about that.

6. Try Zinc cream
Zinc supplement as we all know is fantastic for healing of injuries, skin, hair, etc.. Zinc cream works in the same way topically. Granted, I don't have deep scars so i can't tell the effect of it on them. But for the smaller, punctured holed type of scar, this works great! It has healed some of the tiny scars only after just a couple of weeks of application. I put on a thick layer of it before sleep and in the day I apply it liked a moisturizer. Zinc is also an effective sunblock so i get to skip my sunblock as well.

There are plenty of other tips told to me but thought I will skip them since they are the stuff most of us already know e.g. don't pick your face, tie up your hair, stay happy, etc..

Oh there is one more thing i did every time my skin screws up: I stop all my products immediately. Except the cleanser of course. It is hard to pin point the reason of the outbreak and it is safer to eliminate all possible suspects. Besides, it is a good thing to let your skin rest. And slowly introduce back the product when your skin is calmer. It also serves as a way to identify which of the product is no longer suitable for your skin.

Photo by The 5th Ape
And to end off this post, I will touch on something more personal. I spent a lot of time thinking about the reason of this outbreak. It was very important for me to understand that as it was not triggered by any product reaction (except for that damn chemical peel and benzac but they were not the cause of my whiteheads) or environmental effect. There is something wrong with my body. Physically and emotionally.

I was suspected to have PCOS sometime last year. Simply said, I may have irregular ovulation which may makes it hard to conceive. It was something really hard for me to swallow as I love babies to death and have always wanted so much to raise a few of my own. Paranoid me ran through all the worst case scenario and then brainwashed myself I can accept them so I can moved on with life. But little did I know that subconsciously I was greatly affected by the possibility of uphill journey to motherhood. I will spare you the details but together with the moving of the house, a few unexpected financial burdens, some long standing family issues, wedding preparation, I was under tremendous stress for the last one year. Either that or the PCOS finally tip my hormones unbalanced and hence the chronic insomnia and outbreak.

If you suspect your acne outbreak is due to stress or PCOS, do take some time out to think through things. I was kind of glad to have this outbreak. It shook me up. Stop me from charging forward all the time and finally come to terms with some of my unhappiness, fears and anguish. I finally accepted and embraced the uniqueness of my family issues. I acknowledge how paranoid I have been on my unconfirmed PCOS condition and accepted the uphill journey I might took.

I won't say I am stronger now. But I dare say I have finally put down some of these baggages. Yong has been a big factor of my stress. I was not used to sharing my burdens and stress with another person other than my mum. I was petrified to let him see the vulnerable side of me. Again, god has his way of doing things. I witness his graciousness and incredible big heart and through this episode, I learn to open up to him completely and this really moves the relationship to a different level.

I have digressed a little but you get the gist. Emotional cleansing is as important as the physical one. That is my last tip for you and hope you have found this little post useful and hopefully motivating. :)

Friday, August 13, 2010

Today I learn something.

That words are reflections of oneself.

I was pissed off by some unkind words. A mixture of narcissism, wild imagination and spiteful glee.

Then my mum reminded me that the real damage done is not really on me but to the owner of these very words. It only goes to reveal her personality and grace, or rather, lack of it.

Have you been hurt by mean comments recently too? Hope this little philosophical advice would soothe your heart as well.

Something to brighten up your day. Check out this wonderful Etsy shop by talented photographer AmeliaKay . Totally heart her photos - especially her series on food. They are just the way I like it - soft soothing colours with abit of a vintage feel to it.

Check out my recent fabulous buy from her shop:





I can stare at them the whole day... soon.. on my dining room's wall.. :P

Monday, August 9, 2010

My july ordeal

Long overdue post. And a long one. You have been warned. If you have clear good skin most of your life, you will be bored. If you are looking for some consolation on your battle with problematic skin, dive right in and I hope this post can help and comfort you in some way. 

Been a very bad birthday month. Remember my unfortunate bouts of insomnia which started before the wedding and unceremoniously went on (and on and on...) after it? Well, not surprisingly, it took toll on my already stressed out skin, my whiteheads multiplied and rapidly covered a good lower half of my face. Stupidly, under desperation, I took the advices from forum to visit one of the highly raved dermatologist who is supposedly not only kind but also understanding to the plight of hormonally unbalanced gals liked me.

They could not be more wrong. She was, at best, patronizing. Sheesh.. if my eyes can roll 360 degree I would, at her attempt to be sympathetic. She did her usual "remedy" - cocktail of antibiotics, chemical peel and topical ointments. I rejected antibiotics. But agreed to the rest. Everything went downhill from there. I think the only positive thing I took out of the consultation is the chance to see the biggest diamond ring ever. I don't know sparklies well but man, that is one big diamond and the x number of the smaller ones surrounding it only enhance the size further. For a non-jewelery gal, I got a glimpse of how excited diamond gals must feel with their blings. It certainly tugs some heart string of mine.

Anyhow back to my tragedy, I am not sure which actually did the job of ruining my face. The chemical peel or the Benzac Dr-bluff-nice prescribed. My few cystic acne on my jawline spread and in just a couple of days, the lower half of my face was scaly, peeling, bleeding and swollen.

It was liked a combination of bad allergic reaction and acne outbreak. I went to another GP and succumbed to antibiotics and whatever he prescribed. It did stabilized but the big bumps stayed and stayed and stayed.

It was horrible. Truly horrible. Liked a nightmare except it is played 24/7. The hysteria I experienced only made my insomnia worse. And insomnia did not helped my healing. And the vicious cycle continued.

It was only, when I got to know about a hydrotherapy spa place from a colleague which coincidentally is right opposite my house, that there was a glimmer of hope.

I was skeptical. How would doing water spa help? But I still went out of desperation (and water sounded much less menacing than acid) and after a week of doing spa everyday the swelling and bumps went down abit. I was slightly heartened but it was still far from okay.

THEN I met my current beautician, who is the sister of the hydrotherapy spa owner. It is kind of a family business. The spa thingy is the main business but there are some rooms which you can also do facial as well as TCM (administered by yet another sister). Anyhow I have digressed. My beautician is a godsend. She has been in the business for 20 over years and specializes in problematic skin. And man, she really helped the recovery!

Apparently the GP's advice of "don't do anything to your face except to wash it" was not sound at all. The bacteria and pus within the bumps need to be cleared out! Otherwise you will have to wait. And wait. And wait till they are "ripe" and fall out by themselves. By then, the bacteria would have eat into your pores and not only you will have marks which are bad enough but also horrible horrible scars.

By the second week almost all of the bumps are gone. I was left with loads and loads of red marks and some scars/indentation. But I was thankful. To me, after a month of red angry pus-filled bumps and peeling skin, the transformation in a week was no less than a miracle. No more bleeding and swelling. I can put on my concealer and look normal. Well, normal problematic skin person.

It was tough dealing with hormonal unbalance at a ripe age of 31. But I am glad it is over now. I know the looming possibility of having that ordeal all over again during pregnancy but it is too far for me to think. I just want to get my body back right again. Once I am done with my antibiotics, I will prob start on TCM to balance out my highly stressed out body.

For those still in the battle out there, hang in there. It is just a phase. And it will be over soon. Be patient and let the medicine/ointment/facial/etc take time to heal your face. And most importantly, learn to let go of your stress. I am no expert on this field but after going through this little war with my body I learn that everything in your body happens for a reason. Very often we do not know we are stressed and our body would react in different ways to warn you about it. 

In a way I am thankful of this experience. It makes me highly aware of my health now. And how unhealthy i was before. Both physically and emotionally.


I have learnt a few tips on taking care of problematic skin through my wonderful beautician and I will do a separate post on them. I will also include my experience with dealing with dermatologist, GP and TCM doctors and the valuable (and not so valuable) advices from them.  Stay tuned.

Saturday, June 19, 2010

Wedding AD - Dinner events

ROM was at 6.30pm. Right before dinner started. And man, it was a stressful start to the night!

There was mis-communication with Mr Phang on the timing of ROM (our fault completely!!) and amidst my rush from the hotel room to Grand Shanghai, Yong called to inform that he left the angbao in the hotel room. Got my cousin to go up to the room while I wait for her at the lobby, only to find out that the card key did not work!! Had to frantically wait for the new card key to be made and after a mad rush to the ROM, we completed the short ceremony with our hearts thumping wildly throughout the session.

Not the romantic touching ROM as I would like to have. But after all those hiccups we were just glad it was over and done with!


Thanks to super sporting brothers and sisters, we fully made use of the Grand Shanghai theme so the whole gang of us, donning our cheong sams and page boy caps, we boogied in to the tune of 我要你的爱 for march in #2.


A special thanks to Cathy, who declined gently to be my jie mei, but was as good as one throughout my entire wedding preparation. She accompanied me to Dang and Grand shanghai, at times, helped to negotiate the contracts term, prompted me through the months on the things to do, flexed her wedding planner muscles to ensure I was well prepared for the wedding. And as if those kind gestures were not enough, she helped to choreograph the march in, from the dance step to the music. :___) all i can say is THank you THank you Thank you...

Some random photos of guests.. and not forgetting the adorable babies photos.. Thomas is really really good...



Next up: Random Candid shots...

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